When was the last time sex felt playful to you? Have you ever had a great big belly laugh with your partner during sex or leading up to sex? Have we all gotten lost in the Orgasm Olympics and forgot that sex is not as much about achievement as it is about pleasure? These days I am wondering about playful sex. The kind of sexual interaction between two people that is actually super fun, filled with anticipation, giggles and a sense of silly adventure. If we can let go of performance can we bring back the fun?
I have a few ideas to get you started:
1. Go to a sex toy shop with your partner. You each grab a basket and separate. You get about a half hour. Spend time with the toys. Let your imagination wander. Pick out toys, books, videos, or anything else that you would like to experiment with. Your partner does the same. Meet by the vibrators or the lube at the appointed time and look into each others baskets. What's there? Any surprises? Now, you each get to pick three items from each other baskets that look like something that could be fun to try or experiment with. Go home. Play.
2. Buy sex dice. Sex Dice is a game created to add play back into sex. Instead of numbers, each face on the die contains the name of a body part; the body part that faces up when the die is rolled must then be given sexual attention. It's fun. It's silly. It creates an atmosphere of playfulness. And it extends foreplay. They are inexpensive. Go on. Play dice.
3. Play Seven Minutes in Heaven! Are you old enough to remember that game? It was created by somebody in the 1950's and enjoyed by teenagers at parties. Two people are selected to go into a closet or other dark enclosed space and do whatever they like for seven minutes. In my version of the game, you get seven minutes to consequentially enjoy your partners body. You may ask if you can touch your partners breasts for seven minutes or kiss or even tickle their feet. Remember to take turns! Put on a egg timer to help you play fair and keep track of time.
Come on. We are never to old to play. And taking the time to bring the play back into sex can really help you get your sexy on.
Want to learn more? Join me and Mac S. McGregor, sex educators and intimacy coaches for a playful, sexy, interactive discussion filled with helpful ideas to bring the play back in your sex life.
In this tele-seminar we will bring you suggestions on how to reconnect through erotic play and laughter.
You will learn about new toys for couples, role play and how to set up scene for playful hot laughter filled sex.
When was the last time you played with sex? Perhaps it's time to change your perspective.
Join us! You will laugh, learn and get ready to bring the sexy back into your life! All genders and sexual orientations are welcome at this tele-conference. Self Register using the link!